Make the request specific
Instead of “Is this okay?” name the touch you’d like to try: “Would you like to hold hands?” A specific question makes room for a specific answer.
Separate yes from politeness
You can take a moment before answering. You can say “not yet,” “something else,” or simply “no.” You don’t need to soften a boundary with an apology.
Agree on a pause
Before touch begins, choose a simple way to stop. Saying “pause” or moving away should be enough to prompt a check-in—not an argument.
Respect both people
Boundaries matter for both you and Jax. Clear limits keep the service platonic and help each person understand the agreement.